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My childhood friend and I were talking today, when she said, “come up with the description of your perfect guy”. I didn’t even have to ponder on this. Barack Obama. And in no way am I trying to disrespect Mrs. Obama. I have nothing but profound admiration for Mr. Obama as well as Mrs. Obama, in fact, she is the woman I most admire.
So it’s not about all that. It’s the way he treats his wife with dignity, respect, gentleness and genuine fondness.It is the fact that his heart is so large that it preoccupies itself with trying to better a world, too content to be the way it is presently. It is the shoulders that carry an entire race every single day without making excuses or making apologies for the fact that he is a black man, a black father, and a black husband married to a ‘regular’ looking, although by no means regular black woman and fathering 2 black children.
His accomplishments far exceeds many that we have known. His compassion for his country and countrymen is unparalleled. The fact that is earning potential is high, really high, makes him an amazing Boaz, but through the eyes of love this is simply an added bonus. And the icing on the cake would be the dapper, swag filled man who is the undisputed and respected President of the united States….mic drop!
When she responded that, ” Mrs. Obama wouldn’t like that”, I had to go to number 2 ideal husband. It is not a secret how much I love and admire Lebron James. Yet in terms of myself, I have never seen Lebron as more than the son that should have been mine. I want to say, I do not care about his money, but to say that would probably remove him from the picture.
You see the qualities that I most admire, are made possible in many way because of his monetary situation. But material things are not important to me. I admire this young man’s commitment to people, work and how silent he is while breaking down walls. I like that he gives back wholeheartedly to his community. I love that he is real enough that it bothers him that his hometown turned their back on him.. I love that he feels that he owes them something and is trying to give that to them.
I respect that he is still with his high school sweetheart and that she is normal and does not feel the need to overshadow him. And yes I think he is drop dead gorgeous and sexy, there, you have it.
Yet being Lebron’s pretend mom is good enough for me, as well as being an admirer of the President. However, with that said, they still represent the mold that I desire in an ideal husband.
FROM THE DAY YOU WERE CONCEIVED, UP TO THE DAY THAT YOU LEAVE THIS EARTH, YOUR LIFE IS A JOURNEY. IT COMES WITH UPS AND DOWNS, GOOD AND BAD, TRIUMPHS AND KNOCKDOWNS. FOR EVERY KNOCKDOWN THERE IS A GREATER TRIUMPH. FROM EVERY BAD, SOMETHING GOOD EMERGES AND EACH DOWN WAS BALANCED BY AN UP.
WHEN WE START GIVING GOD PRAISES FOR ALL THE NEGATIVES, ALLOWING HIM TO MANEUVER OUR WAY THROUGH THESE TRAGEDIES, ATROCITIES AND SETBACKS, THEN, AND ONLY THEN CAN WE UNDERSTAND THAT THERE WAS AN ADVERSE EFFECT TO EACH CIRCUMSTANCE.
THERE ARE TWO KEY PLAYERS IN ALL OF THESE, NO MATTER IF THERE ARE OTHER PARTIES INVOLVED. KEY PLAYER NUMBER ONE IS GOD, BECAUSE HE IS ALWAYS THERE, WAITING FOR YOU TO CALL ON HIM. KEY PLAYER NUMBER TWO IS UNDOUBTEDLY YOU. YOU HAVE THE TRUMP CARD, YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER WHO SITS THERE WILLING AND ABLE TO GIVE YOU WISDOM TO GET THROUGH ALL SITUATIONS.
THE QUESTION THEN BEGS TO BE ASKED YOU SAY, HOW COME SOMETIMES IT DOESN’T WORK IN MY FAVOR? I BEG OF YOU TO STOP FOR A MINUTE AND ANALYZE THE SITUATION, ANY SITUATION IT ITS ENTIRETY THAT YOU LOST, AND TELL ME PLEASE, WHAT GOD DID WRONG….
YOU DO NOT SERVE A GOD WHO WILL EVER FORCE HIMSELF ON YOU, HE MUST BE INVITED IN AND HE MUST BE RESPECTED. AND EVEN SOMETIMES IN OUR WICKEDNESS HE STILL FIGHTS OUR BATTLES.
WHILE ON THIS JOURNEY INCLUDE GOD MORE, TRUST YOU LESS AND BE COURAGEOUS IN THIS FIGHT FOR YOUR LIFE. ENJOY THE JOURNEY, SO THAT YOU CAN APPRECIATE THE DESTINATION.
MOST OF US HAVE DREAMS, GOALS, DESIRES, THAT WE WOULD REALLY REALLY WANT TO COME THROUGH. WE THINK ABOUT THEM AT EVERY WAKING MOMENT AND WHEN WE RETIRE FOR THE NIGHT, THESE DREAMS HAUNT US.
THE PROBLEM HERE IS THIS, TOO OFTEN THESE GOALS, DREAMS, DESIRES STAY WHERE THEY ORIGINATED, IN OUR HEADS. THEY CAN PUT A SMILE ON OUR FACE, IF WE STILL BELIEVE THAT WE HAVE TIME, TIME TO STILL ACHIEVE THEM. ON THE OTHER HAND, THEY CAN THROW US INTO A WELL OF DEPRESSION, IF THEY SEEM TOO IMPOSSIBLE TO COME THROUGH.
AS A PURVEYOR OF DREAMS, (I LIKE TO CALL MYSELF), I WONT KNOCK ANYONE’S DREAMS. I BELIEVE THAT EVERYTHING IS WITHIN OUR REACH, AND THAT MOST OF US WILL HAVE TO WORK TO ATTAIN THEM. SO I WILL NOT SAY, THAT IS IMPOSSIBLE. WHO AM I TO DETER YOU FROM YOUR DREAMS. NOW FOR ME, THAT PARTICULAR DREAM MAY BE IMPOSSIBLE, BECAUSE I MAY NOT BE WILLING TO PUT IN THE WORK.
THE KEY WORD HERE IS WORK. STATISTICS HAVE SHOWN HOW RARE THE CHANCE IS OF WINNING THE LOTTERY. SO YOU MUST PUT SOME WORK IN. AS MUCH AS IT REQUIRES AND THEN EVEN AFTER YOU HAVE REACHED THE GOAL, ATTAINED THE DREAM, ACQUIRED THE DESIRES, YOU STILL WORK AS IF YOU HAVE NOT YET DONE SO.
THERE WILL BE DAYS WHEN YOU WILL WONDER IF ITS WORTH IT, EVEN DAYS WHEN IT LOOKS LIKE IT IS NEVER, GOING TO HAPPEN. BUT ON THOSE DAYS WORK JUST A LITTLE HARDER, THINK A LITTLE DEEPER, AND PUSH!
Having a passion for anything means you cannot get enough, correct? I think I have a passion for writing. I believe there is so much I have yet to say. Yet and still, there are days, when my head is over flooded with things I want to say, but I feel no drive to sit and write.
Is it then a passion? I dream of the day when I will be able to write full time. I envision myself sitting in my home in Florida, in Coral Springs, in my writing room with the scant white furniture; a sofa, a desk, a chair and a coffee table with yellow flowers in a vase; Tulips, Roses, Calla Lillies, Hydrangeas and yellow sheer curtains swaying freely in the wind. This room is peaceful, and I am inspired, when I enter. Just God and I dwell there.
I am hopeful that what I say is God approved, and not just me giving my opinion and feelings, as I try to lift my brothers and sisters up through words. Wanting, desiring, believing for single moms to go for gold, to run with the baton handed to them. Run because their lives, their children’s lives depend on it.
For teenagers to get it, that the world is theirs for the taking. To love their fellowmen, don’t get so angry that we forget to love, so despondent that we give up on life, so complacent that we accept what is dished out to us.
And it dawns on me that my passion is not writing, but my passion is my fellowman. That I too want world peace, to live in a world where we are all equal. A world where when we look out and see our neighbors, we are totally oblivious to the fact that they look just a bit different from us. That a hug is not too much to give and that we will understand, that sometimes, that is all they have to give, and it makes all the difference in the world. That when we help another, that is not a prison cell to hold them in for life. My passion is love, is this too much to ask?
BEING A MENTOR IS SUCH AN AMAZING PRIVILEGE. FEW GIFTS COMPARE TO BEING ABLE TO IMPACT THE LIFE AND GROWTH OF ANOTHER PERSON IN A POSITIVE WAY.
WE ALL HAVE SOMETHING THAT WE CAN SHARE WITH A YOUNGER PERSON, WISDOM, KNOWLEDGE, DIRECTIONS. EQUALLY THERE ARE SO MANY YOUNG PEOPLE WHO NEED DIRECTION IN THEIR LIVES. MANY SINGLE PARENTS, WHO WORK, STRUGGLE TO FIND BALANCE WITH THE DEMANDS OF THEIR PROFESSIONS PLUS REARING THEIR CHILDREN.
IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD! WE CAN OFFER HELP WITH HOMEWORK, OR BABYSITTING. MAYBE WE CAN SHARE SOMETHING FROM OUR GROCERY LISTS. WHAT MATTERS IS, IF YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE. WHAT MATTERS IS, IF YOU ARE LIVING LIVES THAT INSPIRES AND ENCOURAGES ANOTHER PERSON.
IT IS MY EXPERIENCE THAT MANY SINGLE MOMS FEEL OVERWHELMED AND OFTEN TIMES WORTHLESS. THEY HAVE DREAMS BUT NO ONE TO HELP THEM TO THE NEXT LEVEL. WE CAN EVEN HELP WITH THE RESEARCH. MY EMPLOYER CALLS ME A MARTYR, (SARCASTICALLY I THINK), WHICH I AM NOT. HONESTLY SOMETIMES I GET FRUSTRATED AT WHAT I SEE AROUND ME, AND I WANT TO DO SO MUCH, YET I KNOW THERE IS A NEED FOR MORE THAN JUST ME.
I UNDERSTAND THAT WE GET CAUGHT UP WITH OUR OWN LIVES, AND THAT IN ITSELF IS A TASK, BUT MAYBE, JUST MAYBE, BECOMING A MENTOR TO A YOUNG PERSON COULD MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE, IN OUR CLUTTERED LIVES.
ALEXIA A. A. HILL
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AS YOU GROW IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE, YOU WILL EXPERIENCE AN HUNGER, OR A NEED TO GROW IN YOUR PROFESSIONAL LIFE AS WELL. PRETTY SOON JUST SHOWING UP TO WORK IS NOT ENOUGH, THE DESIRE FOR MORE AND TO GIVE MORE SHOULD BE DRIVING YOU CRAZY.
EVERYONE HAS SOMETHING INSIDE OF THEM TO OFFER. THE DREAMS THAT YOU HAVE NURTURED AND KEPT HIDDEN OFTEN, CAN NO LONGER LAY DORMANT, AND YOU WILL BEGIN TO EXPERIENCE A BATTLE OF SORTS ON THE INSIDES.
WHETHER YOUR DREAM IS TO BE A WRITER, AN ENTERTAINER, A BUSINESS OWNER, A MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER, WHATEVER YOUR DESIRE, THEN YOU HAVE TO PUT IN THE WORK. YOU HAVE TO HONE YOUR SKILLS. YOU HAVE TO WANT IT BAD ENOUGH!!
HOW DO YOU DO THIS? THIS IS WHERE IT BECOMES FRIGHTENING AND MANY PEOPLE GIVE UP. FEW PEOPLE WAKE UP ONE DAY AND THEIR ENTIRE LIFE HAS CHANGED, INCLUSIVE OF ALL THEIR DREAMS.
SO I WANT TO BE A WRITER, CAN I WRITE? WHAT DO I WRITE ABOUT? WHO IS MY TARGET AUDIENCE? THERE ARE FREE ONE ON ONE SESSIONS FOR ANYONE TRYING TO START A SMALL BUSINESS IN THE STATE OF NEW YORK, I SUSPECT THERE ARE ELSEWHERE ALSO. IF NOT FOR A SMALL BUSINESS, THEN YOU CAN GOOGLE ALMOST ANYTHING. GET YOUR NOTEPAD ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS THAT I AM ASKING YOU. START LOOKING FOR MENTORS IN THAT AREA. FIND OUT WHAT RESOURCES ARE AVAILABLE TO YOU, FOR THE AREA THAT YOU PLAN TO DIVE INTO. THEN GET OFF YOUR HINY AND LIVE YOUR DREAM!!