LIFE IS A JOURNEY

FROM THE DAY YOU WERE CONCEIVED, UP TO THE DAY THAT YOU LEAVE THIS EARTH, YOUR LIFE IS A JOURNEY.  IT COMES WITH UPS AND DOWNS, GOOD AND BAD, TRIUMPHS AND KNOCKDOWNS.  FOR EVERY KNOCKDOWN THERE IS A GREATER TRIUMPH. FROM EVERY BAD, SOMETHING GOOD EMERGES AND EACH DOWN WAS BALANCED BY AN UP.

WHEN WE START GIVING GOD PRAISES FOR ALL THE NEGATIVES, ALLOWING HIM TO MANEUVER OUR WAY THROUGH THESE TRAGEDIES, ATROCITIES AND SETBACKS, THEN, AND ONLY THEN CAN WE UNDERSTAND THAT THERE WAS AN ADVERSE EFFECT TO EACH CIRCUMSTANCE.

THERE ARE TWO KEY PLAYERS IN ALL OF THESE, NO MATTER IF THERE ARE OTHER PARTIES INVOLVED.  KEY PLAYER NUMBER ONE IS GOD, BECAUSE HE IS ALWAYS THERE, WAITING FOR YOU TO CALL ON HIM.  KEY PLAYER NUMBER TWO IS UNDOUBTEDLY YOU. YOU HAVE THE TRUMP CARD, YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER WHO SITS THERE WILLING AND ABLE TO GIVE YOU WISDOM TO GET THROUGH ALL SITUATIONS.

THE QUESTION THEN BEGS TO BE ASKED YOU SAY, HOW COME SOMETIMES IT DOESN’T WORK IN MY FAVOR?  I BEG OF YOU TO STOP FOR A MINUTE AND ANALYZE THE SITUATION, ANY SITUATION IT ITS ENTIRETY THAT YOU LOST, AND TELL ME PLEASE, WHAT GOD DID WRONG….

YOU DO NOT SERVE A GOD WHO WILL EVER FORCE HIMSELF ON YOU, HE MUST BE INVITED IN AND HE MUST BE RESPECTED.  AND EVEN SOMETIMES IN OUR WICKEDNESS HE STILL FIGHTS OUR BATTLES.

WHILE ON THIS JOURNEY INCLUDE GOD MORE, TRUST YOU LESS AND BE COURAGEOUS IN THIS FIGHT FOR YOUR LIFE. ENJOY THE JOURNEY, SO THAT YOU CAN APPRECIATE THE DESTINATION.

 

BEING IDLE DOES NOT ACCOMPLISH DREAMS

MOST OF US HAVE DREAMS, GOALS, DESIRES, THAT WE WOULD REALLY REALLY WANT TO COME THROUGH.  WE THINK ABOUT THEM AT EVERY WAKING MOMENT AND WHEN WE RETIRE FOR THE NIGHT, THESE DREAMS HAUNT US.

THE PROBLEM HERE IS THIS, TOO OFTEN THESE GOALS, DREAMS, DESIRES STAY WHERE THEY ORIGINATED, IN OUR HEADS.  THEY CAN PUT A SMILE ON OUR FACE, IF WE STILL BELIEVE THAT WE HAVE TIME, TIME TO STILL ACHIEVE THEM.  ON THE OTHER HAND, THEY CAN THROW US INTO A WELL OF DEPRESSION, IF THEY SEEM TOO IMPOSSIBLE TO COME THROUGH.

AS A PURVEYOR OF DREAMS, (I LIKE TO CALL MYSELF), I WONT KNOCK ANYONE’S DREAMS.  I BELIEVE THAT EVERYTHING IS WITHIN OUR REACH, AND THAT MOST OF US WILL HAVE TO WORK TO ATTAIN THEM.  SO I WILL NOT SAY,  THAT IS IMPOSSIBLE. WHO AM I TO DETER YOU FROM YOUR DREAMS. NOW FOR ME, THAT PARTICULAR DREAM MAY BE IMPOSSIBLE, BECAUSE I MAY NOT BE WILLING TO PUT IN THE WORK.

THE KEY WORD HERE IS WORK.  STATISTICS HAVE SHOWN HOW RARE THE CHANCE IS OF WINNING THE LOTTERY.  SO YOU MUST PUT SOME WORK IN.  AS MUCH AS IT REQUIRES AND THEN EVEN AFTER YOU HAVE REACHED THE GOAL, ATTAINED THE DREAM, ACQUIRED THE DESIRES, YOU STILL WORK AS IF YOU HAVE NOT YET DONE SO.

THERE WILL BE DAYS WHEN YOU WILL WONDER IF ITS WORTH IT, EVEN DAYS WHEN IT LOOKS LIKE IT IS NEVER, GOING TO HAPPEN.  BUT ON THOSE DAYS WORK JUST A LITTLE HARDER,  THINK A LITTLE DEEPER, AND PUSH!

 

 

What drives us?

Having a passion for anything means you cannot get enough, correct?  I think I have a passion for writing.  I believe there is so much I have yet to say. Yet and still, there are days, when my head is over flooded with things I want to say, but I feel no drive to sit and write.

Is it then a passion?  I dream of the day when I will be able to write full time.  I envision myself sitting in my home in Florida, in Coral Springs, in my writing room with the scant white furniture; a sofa, a desk, a chair and a coffee table with yellow flowers in a vase; Tulips, Roses, Calla Lillies, Hydrangeas and yellow sheer curtains swaying freely in the wind.  This room is peaceful, and I am inspired, when I enter.  Just God and I dwell there.

I am hopeful that what I say is God approved, and not just me giving my opinion and feelings, as I try to lift my brothers and sisters up through words.  Wanting, desiring, believing for single moms to go for gold, to run with the baton handed to them.  Run because their lives, their children’s lives depend on it.

For teenagers to get it, that the world is theirs for the taking.  To love their fellowmen, don’t get so angry that we forget to love, so despondent that we give up on life, so complacent that we accept what is dished out to us.

And it dawns on me that my passion is not writing, but my passion is my fellowman.  That I too want world peace, to live in a world where we are all equal.  A world where when we look out and see our neighbors, we are totally oblivious to the fact that they look just a bit different from us.  That a hug is not too much to give and that we will understand, that sometimes, that is all they have to give, and it makes all the difference in the world.  That when we help another, that is not a prison cell to hold them in for life.  My passion is love, is this too much to ask?

MENTORSHIP

BEING A MENTOR IS SUCH AN AMAZING PRIVILEGE.  FEW GIFTS COMPARE TO BEING ABLE TO IMPACT THE LIFE AND GROWTH OF ANOTHER PERSON IN A POSITIVE WAY.

WE ALL HAVE SOMETHING THAT WE CAN SHARE WITH A YOUNGER PERSON, WISDOM, KNOWLEDGE, DIRECTIONS. EQUALLY THERE ARE SO MANY YOUNG PEOPLE WHO NEED DIRECTION IN THEIR LIVES.  MANY SINGLE PARENTS, WHO WORK, STRUGGLE TO FIND BALANCE WITH THE DEMANDS OF THEIR PROFESSIONS PLUS REARING THEIR CHILDREN.

IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD!  WE CAN OFFER HELP WITH HOMEWORK, OR BABYSITTING.  MAYBE WE CAN SHARE SOMETHING FROM OUR GROCERY LISTS.  WHAT MATTERS IS, IF YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE.  WHAT MATTERS IS, IF YOU ARE LIVING LIVES THAT INSPIRES AND ENCOURAGES ANOTHER PERSON.

IT IS MY EXPERIENCE THAT MANY SINGLE MOMS FEEL OVERWHELMED AND OFTEN TIMES WORTHLESS.  THEY HAVE DREAMS BUT NO ONE TO HELP THEM TO THE NEXT LEVEL.  WE CAN EVEN HELP WITH THE RESEARCH.  MY EMPLOYER CALLS ME A MARTYR, (SARCASTICALLY I THINK), WHICH I AM NOT.  HONESTLY SOMETIMES I GET FRUSTRATED AT WHAT I SEE AROUND ME, AND I WANT TO DO SO MUCH, YET I KNOW THERE IS A NEED FOR MORE THAN JUST ME.

I UNDERSTAND THAT WE GET CAUGHT UP WITH OUR OWN LIVES, AND THAT IN ITSELF IS A TASK, BUT MAYBE, JUST MAYBE, BECOMING A MENTOR TO A YOUNG PERSON COULD MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE, IN OUR CLUTTERED LIVES.

ALEXIA A. A. HILL

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Tired of being, ‘Sick & Tired’

AS YOU GROW IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE, YOU WILL EXPERIENCE AN HUNGER, OR A NEED TO GROW IN YOUR PROFESSIONAL LIFE AS WELL.  PRETTY SOON JUST SHOWING UP TO WORK IS NOT ENOUGH, THE DESIRE FOR MORE AND TO GIVE MORE SHOULD BE DRIVING YOU CRAZY.

EVERYONE HAS SOMETHING INSIDE OF THEM TO OFFER.  THE DREAMS THAT YOU HAVE NURTURED AND KEPT HIDDEN OFTEN, CAN NO LONGER LAY DORMANT, AND YOU WILL BEGIN TO EXPERIENCE A BATTLE OF SORTS ON THE INSIDES.

WHETHER YOUR DREAM IS TO BE A WRITER, AN ENTERTAINER, A BUSINESS OWNER, A MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER, WHATEVER YOUR DESIRE, THEN YOU HAVE TO PUT IN THE WORK.  YOU HAVE TO HONE YOUR SKILLS. YOU HAVE TO WANT IT BAD ENOUGH!!

HOW DO YOU DO THIS? THIS IS WHERE IT BECOMES FRIGHTENING AND MANY PEOPLE GIVE UP.  FEW PEOPLE WAKE UP ONE DAY AND THEIR ENTIRE LIFE HAS CHANGED, INCLUSIVE OF ALL THEIR DREAMS.

SO I WANT TO BE A WRITER, CAN I WRITE? WHAT DO I WRITE ABOUT? WHO IS MY TARGET AUDIENCE? THERE ARE FREE ONE ON ONE SESSIONS FOR ANYONE TRYING TO START A SMALL BUSINESS IN THE STATE OF NEW YORK, I SUSPECT THERE ARE ELSEWHERE ALSO.  IF NOT FOR A SMALL BUSINESS, THEN YOU CAN GOOGLE ALMOST ANYTHING.  GET YOUR NOTEPAD ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS THAT I AM ASKING YOU.  START LOOKING FOR MENTORS IN THAT AREA.  FIND OUT WHAT RESOURCES ARE AVAILABLE TO YOU, FOR THE AREA THAT YOU PLAN TO DIVE INTO.  THEN GET OFF YOUR HINY AND LIVE YOUR DREAM!!

“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry our their dream.” ― Les Brown